Daddy’s back
Emeraude was thrilled yesterday when she spoke to her father on the phone and he announced that
he would be back home today. He has been working out of Hearst & Kapuskasing for some time now and had, when he left 2 weeks ago, not thought he would return until the 2nd or 3rd week of March. Now Daniel, unfortunately, goes through periods of time where he isn’t a huge part of Emeraude’s life as he sometimes prioritizes other things and has dealt with alot of pressure from his family to travel, giving them the weekends during which Emeraude looks forward to spending at least a day or a night with him. As I said this comes and goes though and since the new year he has been making efforts (he is after all an adult and able to make his own choices regardless of what might make him popular with relatives), big efforts to be a regular and dependable part of Emeraude’s life. Of course, I (and others who are significant people in her life) see big changes in Emeraude’s mood, behaviour and self confidence (all of these improved ten fold) when she knows what to expect of Daddy and when he is a regular part of her schedule.
Everyone must work and he was, rightfully so, relieved to be working out of town as otherwise he wouldn’t have been working at all but it is AWESOME that the work in Hearst is now finished and he will be working from town once again. He just got back last night, called this morning and couldn’t seem to come get her fast enough (so nice for her!!). He was nice enough to accompany me to the emerg when he came this morning and then she decided she was staying with Daddy (there was no way after 2 weeks that she was going to let him out of her sight lol) rather than come home for lunch and have him pick her up again. He was happy to see the consequence of having put her at the top of his list of priorities in the past couple months (when he wants to spend so much time with her, she becomes accustom to this being the norm and wants the same from him 🙂 ) and I was thrilled for her as I believe that a good relationship with Daddy makes for a stronger woman down the road; also, she has been so understanding about his working it was great for her to have him home early rather than later than expected as happened to him the last time he expected to be off work.
I am hoping that Daniel will be forthcoming regarding his intentions for scheduling her in as it makes it easier for Emeraude, and less stressful for me, if she knows what to expect regarding time with him and if he is part of her schedule. I am hopeful that he will want to be a significant part of her schedule as, since January, he has made big efforts to do so. I will try to make the best of whatever time he gives her as it is best for Emeraude if I am positive about things.
All this has a big impact on Lloyd’s life (and I need to remember that if he is grumpy or moody in the next few days) as he is usually the main man in Emeraude’s life (even with her Dad in town) and is good about letting Daniel take over when ever he wants to and yet never letting Emeraude down when that situation changes. I imagine it must be a little difficult sometimes to let go of the reins (a little less, he still is the one who always says goodnight – even calling on the rare occasion he is not here while I put her to bed; is always there if she has a difficult day and wants a man’s shoulder or needs to talk to him about not having her Daddy live here, something he can obviously understand) even if having less responsibility is certainly good for him.
One day at a time, it certainly will be a positive for both the kids (and consequentialy myself) that Daniel’s work (Black River Logging) is now back to working out of Manitouwadge.
